In the land where I live, people say that if you have not kept a child in your womb for nine months and that if you have not been through the dying pain of child birth then you are not a mother and hence not a complete woman.
When I hear cases of mothers abandoning their newborn children I cannot help but question this old age concept. And when I hear about mothers selling their kids for money, treating sexuality of their homosexual kids with corrective rapes, making them work at innocent ages, the question turns into a confident conclusion.
I do not believe in this “myth” of motherhood. I believe that a woman becomes a mother when she feels the feeling of protecting a child and that child can be anyone, a little sibling, a cousin, a nephew or a niece, or in a few cases; a stranger.
You are a mother if you lie to your parents to save your sister from a scolding. You are a mother if you do not leave your nephew’s hand when you take him out to shop. You are a mother if you scream at a child if he does something bad. You are a mother if you will do anything in this world to bring a smile on the face of a child.
I know that many believe that being a mother is the toughest job in the world and that it is not less than rocket science, but I beg to differ. Being a mother is having the purest form of love in your heart and when there is love then nothing is tough and nothing is questionable.
Every girl was born with a small seed of motherhood in her heart. When that seed grows into a perfect tree then the petty things like blood relation won’t be imperative because then she will be able to give the feeling of that love to any child who becomes a part of her.
Unfortunately, we have around us many kids who do not have a mother, be a mother to them. Give them the love that you are saving for your own born. Remember that if you are a woman then you are a tree full of fruits of love. Do not restrict yourself. Kids deserve to be loved. Period.